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CarolinaCJ wrote:Sue-M, I will be praying for you sister....I can't go into the whole story right now, but I know exactly where you're coming from in many ways. And there have been times when I felt as you do, that I didn't even want to pray for him but I have done so out of obedience. (Sometimes they aren't too fervant, but I'm asking God to change my heart as well!)
Money, sex and lies are our biggest issues as well. It's very hard to trust someone who will say all the right words, but never back it up with their actions. He lies to me to avoid conflict and because he's embarrassed, but it doesn't change his actions.
As I look back, things have not changed a lot over the years, but they have changed, and THAT is what I'm thankful for. I have prayed many times to allow me to see Matt as HE sees him and replace my apathy with love again.
CarolinaCJ wrote:: I know that we are supposed to pray, so I am doing my part but the rest is up to God. I know it's God's will for Matt to walk closely with Him, but I also believe that Matt has free will....my prayer is that God will draw him. I believe God can do ANYTHING, but Matt has to choose. That's where my lack of faith comes in.
I am going to have to pray that I can believe this is possible for MY husband....maybe God wants to change my prayer life (and possibly my attitude ).
Ancient rabbis taught that forgiveness should be granted 3 times. However when Peter asked if he should forgive more than twice that number, Jesus multiplied his number by 11 (or 70 depending on the interpretation). My exhortation for you is to answer with a 'yes'.you wrote:Should I just forgive it all and forget?
Passion wrote::angel: Yay! Hope it helps a bit!
And just my again, but imo, I think that you can forgive someone but still not trust them. I've forgiven the people who ripped us off and ruined our house, and I pray for them, but I would never, ever, trust them again. I've totally forgiven my ex--which really wasn't too hard once I admitted to myself that I was totally wrong in leaving him, and that I had done some horrible things, too. But because of the lies he told me (and told everyone else about me, including, I suspect, our kids), I don't trust him.
Forgiveness can't be earned, it's a gift of grace. Trust must--and should--be earned.
nickylouse wrote:As I was thinking of any blessings of encouragement for those who are having trouble with forgiveness, I wrote some notes down. And then I got to Passion's last post. She covered all of my points and more.
Here's my advice: print her post because if you are having trouble, all of those things won't necessarily sink in right away. Read it from time to time. And as you do I am sure the love of God that dwells in you will reveal some of the truths that are hurting inside. Be courageous and trust in Him who loves you more than you can imagine.
You and me both! I am a MAJOR work in progress! Oftentimes I ask God to be patient with me and just keep on molding me and shaping me into the vessel He wants; and then I have to acknowledge that it's a really long, tough, arduous process!
Good thing He's so patient.
"When Jesus saw their faith......" Mark 2:5
Mark writes: "They came, bringing to Him a paralytic, carried by four men. Being unable to get to [Jesus] because of the crowd, they removed the roof...and...let down the pallet" (Mk 2:3-4 NAS). When it comes to bringing someone to Christ, always keep these 3 things in mind:
(1) Any time you pick up the weight of another person you'll find it's a heavy load! It took 4 of them to get this man to Jesus, so don't try it alone. Find someone who'll agree with you in prayer. "If two of you...agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in Heaven" (Mt 18:19 NIV). What a promise! And don't pick them up then drop them. Whatever you do, make the commitment and stick with it.
(2) Raise the roof if you have to! Bringing people to Christ has never been easy, so do what these 4 men did. The crowd was a problem so they went around it. The roof was a problem so they raised it. But they refused to give in or get discouraged. If what you've tried hasn't worked, ask God, He'll show you the way. Doctors can treat people but only the Lord can heal them within and without, so get them to Him.
(3) Use your faith; it's what moves God! Mark writes, "When Jesus saw their faith, he said to the paralytic...'Get up, take your mat and go home" (Mk 2:5, 11 NIV). Even though you're praying for someone who has little or no faith of their own, God will honor your faith, so put it into action! Bring them to Jesus expecting to receive -- He won't disappoint you!
Sue-M wrote:Passion, you have helped me a lot of times. Here and the prayer post about my kids. BTW, I prayed for your kids today. And even when you were replying to Churchgirl (I forget everyone's real name) when you told about what happened with your house. That helped me to know that someone went through exactly what I went through. It's amazing how God uses the littlest things we say and do to make an impact on other people. Most times, we don't even realize we've had an impact and that's (just like you said) because, God deserves all the credit. But, God does tell us to encourage one another and you are good at that, I must say.
And another thing, whoever prayed for me is a very powerful prayer person. So, whoever you are, please, pat yourself on the back for me.
Sue-M wrote:Passion, what you said makes me feel so good. It means that God extended His love and caring to me through you. I love being used by God! Woohoo! :banana: I don't think I will ever have total peace in this life. I won't be at total peace until I hear Jesus tell me, "well done good and faithful servant". Until I hear those words, I will always be "fighting the good fight" if you know what I mean. I think that goes for all of us! So, anytime I can even think that God is looking at me with a smile, that just makes my day.......actually, it makes my year!
Sue-M wrote:I was getting angry the other day because I could hear my husband from outside of the bedroom and he was farting up a storm. I'm getting angry because, here we go again, the bedroom will smell when it's time for me to go to bed and I will throw up when I walk in there. God is so funny isn't He? He gives me the funniest tests. God says, it's only a smell. Chill Sue. Okay, God. I love You, that's what's important. And when I get to heaven, You will give me the greatest smell I have ever smelled. And You will say, (hopefully) "well done, my servant, Sue".
CrystalClear wrote:Hi, all:
I'm having frustration on multiple fronts and am trying to post each on the appropriate forum. This one regards my husband, who just told me the other evening that the reason he tries to distance himself from getting deeply involved in his children's lives is because he "doesn't want to mess up what (I'm) trying to do". Meaning, because he listens to bad music and knows it, and can fling some pretty interesting cuss words and knows it, and feels like he doesn't want them to grow up anything like him, he's just better off staying out of most stuff because I'm trying to raise them to be Christian, believing people.
Well, just rip my heart out and feed it to me...
I tried to explain that the children know perfectly well that he's not a believer and so they don't expect he will act like one, either...to just forget it, do the best he can, but please offer them what he does have, which is any number of important lifeskills and interests!
Thanks for listening...
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