Hi Stacey:
I was reading your latest response to me and realized I failed to say "You're welcome" for my trying to talk to you about letting this crazy making stuff go and just living your life...because life is short and we do not have to fix problems for other adults. Mental illness is pervasive these days, and so is the concept among those who don't have one that they somehow need to assume responsibility and deal with other's situations, simply because other's wont deal with their stuff themselves. I hope I wasn't hard on you....scared to read back....lol....because I absolutely adore you.....but I did want you to see that it really is best to let them have it....the whole 9 yards.....since the players involved keep not having boundaries in place and asserting those boundaries. If your SIL has moved into MIL's house, there may be a time when MIL seeks your input, because she has become miserable. Then, it's time to help her communicate boundaries to her daughter and insist on the changes she needs in order for her to be happy with her life. At least this is how I see it.
All of that said, I am not even sure SIL has left the house she lives in yet?????....has she? I was going to say that doing foreclosures for a living here in my state (in the legal field side), there really is a glut, and the banks will start/stop/go/ungo....etc....so, until your SIL has been given a direct Judge's Order to leave, she likely can continue to stay there. What's happening these days with this?
How are you feeling with all of this? Have you let them have it their way and turned the focus back on you and your life and your family? Do you feel better as I know at one point this was really stressing you out and making you unhappy.
Im just thinking about it and wondering what's happening with it and most especially you, since it makes me sad to see you sad and/or stressed.