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Spreading Salt wrote:One time, I dumped an entire pitcher of water over my tantrum-throwing child. It surprised us both as it was a purely random and freak thing as I was in the process of watering my house plants. He totally stopped crying and I had to hide my laughter as I told him "NO!" Worked like a charm and I just sopped it up with towels after I got him busy doing something else.
Pro 23:13 Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.
Pro 23:14 Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.
"If a man strikes his male or female slave with a rod and he dies at his hand, he shall be punished.
GodsStudent wrote:At two, my biggest thing was redirecting my daughter. If she was having a fit over getting a cookie, I would get an excited voice about her book or her little swing, and I would engage her in that. I would ignore that she was screaming at the top of her lungs by enticing her to come over here with mommy and do this or read that or play with this other thing.
Two is so young, imo, that redirecting her was far more in order, imo, than spanking. Redirecting took purposeful work on my part to get her to stop focusing on what she cannot have or do and change her focus to what will be acceptable for her to do. If she refused redirecting, which she did on occasion, then she would go into time out and would not be allowed out of time out until she stopped the carrying on. Most important, mom, stay calm. If you scream, then you validate the screaming and tantrum the child is doing.
My daughter had the same types of raging tantrums. I don't necessarily remember those destructive characteristics at two, but I can remember that when she would get put in time out around 5, she would throw things in her room or tear things up. It was a stage that she eventually grew out of, but at 5, I did punish her further for tearing our house up.....the punishment never stopped her from acting on the impulse to lash out and tear something up.
The whole rod debate won't end until the Lord returns, that I know. God knows how best to deal with each and every person and circumstance, pray and let the Holy Spirit lead you. One thing I know for sure, I've read that previous generations were very strict and harsh with their children, and as it stands now, according to the latest statistics I've been able to gather, our Christian child raising efforts are driving kids away from the faith, and I for one want to work to change that statistic.
I believe not spanking a child is a form of abuse and scriptural disobedience.
If children live with criticism, they learn to condemn.
If children live with hostility, they learn to fight.
If children live with fear, they learn to be apprehensive.
If children live with pity, they learn to feel sorry for themselves.
If children live with ridicule, they learn to feel shy.
If children live with jealousy, they learn to feel envy.
If children live with shame, they learn to feel guilty.
If children live with encouragement, they learn confidence.
If children live with tolerance, they learn patience.
If children live with praise, they learn appreciation.
If children live with acceptance, they learn to love.
If children live with approval, they learn to like themselves.
If children live with recognition, they learn it is good to have a goal.
If children live with sharing, they learn generosity.
If children live with honesty, they learn truthfulness.
If children live with fairness, they learn justice.
If children live with kindness and consideration, they learn respect.
If children live with security, they learn to have faith in themselves and in those about them.
If children live with friendliness, they learn the world is a nice place in which to live.